Wednesday, August 27, 2014

I miss you

Holy cow! It's been over a year since I've posted anything.  How did I let that happen!!!

I miss blogging,  the outlet it gave me. I believe I will be reviving this blog!! It will be more of the same!

Stay tuned!

Friday, May 31, 2013

I did it!! Life changer! The Rundown

Thats right bitches
I went to NC to meet my Birth fam...
The sun rise from the Airplane
It was a crazy trip, fit a lot of people into 6 days...
But it was so worth it.
It was super awkward the first few hours/day..
Honestly, i was ready to hop a flight home shortly after I got there.
I chalk that up to jet lag, exhaustion and overwhelming anxiety.
I know I was not the only one who was anxious, I couldn't imagine meeting the child I gave up at birth...
The child I never new about...

My younger Brother J flew in the same day i did, but i came in early AM, he came in the late night:)
We Went to the Wright Brothers Museum in Kitty Hawk
That was super cool, and we got to hang out, and just talk.. It was good to get to know him face to face, instead of on the phone.

We swam in the Atlantic Ocean

That was cool... I had never seen the Atlantic Ocean, 
It is way different than the Pacific, 
it was def a good trip to the Beach with J, Neal and Shawna.

The next day, I got to meet my other brother B2, We had a cook out with the Enforcers:)
A great group of men and women, 
I got to go for a ride with one of my readers, and friend J!!
That car is HAWT!!

I got to meet B2's kids, the are stinking ADORABLE!
 The next day I got to hang out with both of my older brothers,
B1 and B2, and their kids:) 
That was fun!!

Then Tattoo time With B2

That was awesome, both done at the same time, by two different people, 
What a rush!!
Got to spend my last night with B2 and his GF, 
I was blown away by our similarities.

All in all, it was an amazing trip.
I am SO happy I got to go!!

There is so much more in my head, SO many things that are hard to put into words right now.

There is so much more to tell.
It is coming out slowly..

I feel like I need to be careful of my words, 
because once they come out I can never really put them back.

I must find the right words first.

Sunday, May 12, 2013

The beginning of a beautiful thing


Tonight I fly out to North Carolina..
To finally meet my birth parents.
I would be lying if I said I wasn't anxious.
I've had a ton of mixed reactions when people found out I was actually going. 
Most are excited for me, 
Some are anxious for me, 
And some just don't understand why. 

I am so thankful most of my family are happy for me. I think my brother is the most nervous for me, he being adopted too, has a ton of reservations. Some for me, and some for his self. He tells me blood doesn't make you family, love does. He is right. To me that doesn't mean that I cannot have a relationship with my biological family. My brother will always be my brother, no matter what happens. 
 Wish me luck, I'm ready to start a new chapter! 

Tuesday, May 7, 2013

It's Tuesday...tiny terrorist Tuesday

See, she is cute, but good god, this child is crazy!

She will hit, kick, punch, scream and pout. She is so mean! 
 She walked up to me the other day and looked at me, bent over and spit on my shoe, looked right back at me and ran.
The next day it was "Your a witch, I don't have to listen to you"

Today's conversation went like this
Mr: I can always tell when you work hard
Me: *snappy* OH Really?!? HOW!?
Mr: you get crabby and yelly
Mayhem: dad, that means she works hard every day


This girl will be the death of me

Saturday, April 27, 2013

Birthday Bucket list

Every year on my birthday I've made a list if things I'd like to accomplish for the coming year, with my 29th birthday ( the first of many I'm sure :) ) fast approaching its time to see what I've done!

1: Meet my birth parents. this has been on my list for years!! And sad to say I will not be doing this before I Turn 28, but I will be doing it before I turn 30!! Excited to see then in my Birth month, this year!!' Can't wait to write about it!

2: Get motivated, you know to work out more, eat better, and feel better! I've done much better this year than previous years, much!! The weight is coming off ssslllooowwwwly, but it is coming off. I work out almost daily, and eat great! I feel so much better! This will be a yearly goal!

3: Be positive!! I'm not generally a negative nelly, but I do have a problem with not being the bestest at it can be,
This year has be crazy, and I think I've done pretty good and keeping it positive/) it's not easy!

4: switch my focus, I spend/t a lot of time focusing on anything but my home and family, it causes tons of problems between the Mr and I:( I've been working on cutting back the social part of me. And really working on our family. Somedays are better than others, but I feel the tides turning.

5: Letting go. I've been thru some shot... Some real shit in my life. I've held on to a ton of anger and hurt, and it was literally making me sick. I've done a lot in working to let go, and some things I have let go, I've forgiven people for things I thought were unforgivable and I have started the process to forgive myself. I've still got a long way to go.

This coming year holds a ton of excitement and new things, meeting my birth parents, the big girl goes to high school, the baby goes to kindergarden, maybe a return to work... It is also another year to work on myself and my family.
Here is to some of the best years yet!!

Thursday, April 25, 2013

how is it...

Things have been changing.. 
The people in my life,
 the people I WANT in my life, 
the way I look at things, 
 the way I see me. 

There are some big things coming my way,
I get to meet my biological parents and siblings for the first time,
I have to make some huge decisions about my family,
I've got to keep evolving.

Today it feels impossible. 
That the things coming are going to overwhelm me, 
I almost feel like I am drowning.

Friday, March 29, 2013

Guest Post: Parenting and Caregiving

Guest Post: 
Cameron Von St. James

Being a New Parent With Cancer

Having a baby is a joyous occasion for anyone, and when my wife Heather and I welcomed our little Lily into the world in the summer of 2005, we were ecstatic.  Little did we know then that just three months later, we would be thrown into a nightmarish whirlwind of cancer treatments as Heather struggled to overcome an aggressive form of the disease, Mesothelioma
It wasn't easy.  All of the challenges that come with adjusting to parenthood were amplified because we were so short on time and resources.  Heather had to leave her job, and I needed to take considerable time off in order to care for her and Lily.  Meanwhile, there were sleepless nights worrying about my family’s future.  I needed to take care of both my wife and my daughter, and Heather needed to remain close to her little girl despite her own pain.

All we could do was our best, and while we struggled, there were wonderful moments every day as we watched our daughter grow and cherished Heather's small triumphs.  We were able to be together more because Heather needed me so much, and that brought all three of us closer together.  While I wish that she had not needed to go through the pain and fear of that experience, I am thankful for the sense of intimacy that this period fostered.  It showed us that we could tackle any challenge that would come our way.

It also demonstrated to us that it really does take a village to raise a child, as well as to fight a dangerous disease.  Neither of us could have done it alone.  We had a veritable army of babysitters, meal providers and just general helpers who were there for the three of us when we needed it most.  We learned who our real friends were and came to rely on their kindness, setting aside our pride for the sake of what needed to be done.  I know that both of us would happily do the same if one of those friends were in need.

Being a cancer caregiver is hard, and I had to learn fast with the added pressure of a new baby in the midst of our cancer battle.  If you are a cancer caregiver, I hope you can take a few lessons from someone who has been there before.  Take all the help you can get, and don’t let your pride get in the way.  Allow yourself to have bad days, this is inevitable with the amount of stress and fear you’ll likely experience, but always remember to never, ever give up hope.

Thankfully, not everyone will face the kinds of challenges we did, but every family must deal with unexpected hurdles.  Don't let them discourage you.  Life is a beautiful gift, so embrace it together.

After months of extensive mesothelioma treatment, including surgery, chemotherapy and radiation, Heather was able to defy the odds and beat her cancer.  She has been cancer free for seven years.  She is the strongest person I know, and I’m so thankful to be able to spend everyday with her.  After making it through this terrible battle, we now hope that by sharing our experiences, we can help inspire others currently going through a similar battle. Never give up hope, and always keep fighting for the ones you love.

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Cameron Von St. James